dear spinster aunt ciara

i have been wanting to do an advice column for a really long time. in fact, i actually did do an advice column for my elementary school newspaper when i was eleven. i got questions like, “i was going steady with this girl & then she dumped me & i am really sad. what should i do?” i let this sad eleven-year-old boy know that “there are other fish in the sea,” which i’m sure was a great comfort in his difficult time of strife & heartbreak. thankfully, my advice has gotten a lot better in the last twenty years. i even contributed to’s very weird “advice from zinesters” feature last year. some people reading this have been beneficiaries of my advice in the past & can vouch for how awesome it is.

but now i want to offer advice to everyone! here’s how: leave a comment or drop me an e-mail outlining your problem & i will answer it here on this blog. because questions & answers will be public, feel free to leave anonymous comments or e-mails (if you have a secret e-mail address or want to create one for advice-garnering purposes). if there are potentially identifying details that you feel you need to share with me for the sake of receiving useful advice, but you don’t want them shared with the general public, let me know & i will edit them out when i post. if you are cool with me knowing who you are but don’t want anyone else to know, e-mail me from your regular address & let me know you want to use a pseudonym, such as “sad in sixth grade”.

i can offer all kinds of advice. i am especially good at relationship issues, money management, vagina health concerns, book recommendations, writing tips, celebrity who wore it best questions, babysitters club trivia, &…let’s face it, i’m a jack of all trades. i will at least make a sincere effort to answer any question you throw at me, even if i have to confess that i just don’t know.

my e-mail address is: (yes, still, despite the closure of the distro).

here's a cute cat photo to keep you warm while you contemplate the mysteries of your life.

Published by Ciara

Ciara Xyerra wrote zines for the better part of two decades. She has a brilliant & adorable preschooler named Ramona & sews as much as she possibly can. She lives in Lawrence, Kansas with her boyfriend. She enjoys catching up on "The New Yorker", meatball subs, keeping it cranky, intersectional post-third wave feminism, dinosaurs, & monsters. If you have nothing nice to say, she recommends that you come sit here by her, so you can say not-nice things together.

4 thoughts on “dear spinster aunt ciara

  1. This isn’t advice – but rather an opinion question – perhaps for another blog entry.

    The ladies of the Babysitter’s Club – who would win Top Model?

    1. i will answer it in my advice column. even though it’s not really advice…though, it could function as advice for aspiring contestants. even though everyone i know is too old to try out.

  2. Based on the cover of the Fire at MA’s House, I thought her–I blogged about it a while ago and I thought for sure it looked like a Top Model photoshoot. Claudia’s cool but she’s a Proj Runway finalist, not a runway model. Stacey thinks she could win it, but…I dunno.

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